love mirrors freedom mirrors love

Love and freedom; maybe the two most essential concepts in our language, and they seem to go hand-in-hand. Love and freedom are intertwined in a way that they cannot truthfully be understood as separate. Inseparable, they reflect meaning onto each other. Love and freedom are a part of each others’ meaning; together they make more sense than apart.

 

Love mirrors freedom mirrors love mirrors..

 

The topic of love and freedom appears essential, in essence it’s everywhere, and are the main building bricks to each of our lives. Love, true deep love, needs freedom to exist, to be, and to grow. True love is freedom. Freedom, in return, is true love. Yet, it seems, few of us are really that free and few amongst many, love that deeply.

As simple, cliché even, it sounds it might be that it all comes down to one core thing: loving oneself, and setting oneself free; which are two sides of the same coin. If you cannot reach that place for yourself, how then, can you enable others to do so? You can’t. You must find the way – your unique way – into that chamber or space of immense, infinite love within you and the road to that destination is one of loving yourself. This means accepting yourself fully as you are, knowing that you are a wonderful and amazing being, just the way you are. Love it all, even the shades of your character you tend to hide, thinking it will serve you better doing so. It won’t. What will serve you best is putting all inch of your being up on the table, let yourself be seen as you are, and like a loving mother accept all of it. It will set you free; in this love your deepest freedom lies. No one but you has the key to this core space of freedom within you, only you can open that door. Others might inspire you towards it, and shine the light such that you can see the door, but actually opening the door is yours only. Often our toughest critic is ourselves, so face that critic and have a good eye-to-eye with it, and question, who it is and why it is. When you look it into its eyes, it looks pretty silly and starts to crumble.

We tend to look for love, approval, belonging, and supposedly freedom in others, which paradoxically lead us further away from just that. It cannot in its truest form be found external to ourselves. It is that simple, however complicated it can seem to become at times. Love will be transformative when it is given in freedom, unconditionally, without expectations and limitations. Often it happens, that as a masquerade for individual insecurities walls of requirements, expectations and worries are build-up from both sides, creating one vast castle of limitations within which the relationship is being played out. Sometimes it is not even clear to us, where the other has placed a wall, and then we clash right into them. It is not build from bad intentions, but rather a deep, innate fear within the individual, a place where the love for oneself has not yet reached. When you let go and just love yourself, when you expose the critic like the child did in the The Emperor’s New Clothes, the castle will be washed away like one of sand dissolved by waves of the ocean, and left is freedom; and love.

Let these fine lines by Marianne Williamson end this little reflection on love and freedom:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

|Denmark 2009

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